I listen to sports talk radio every weekday morning, so I am
always aware of the top sports stories of the day. However, the recent child sex abuse scandal
at Penn State has been a national news story extending beyond the sports world. I have heard a wide range of opinions. There is no question that this is a very
disgusting and sad story that brings out very intense and real emotions from
people. I have heard people call in to
radio shows who had been abused as a child themselves. I have heard Penn State alums call into radio
shows with mixed emotions. I have seen
students riot in defense of their ex longtime coach Paterno. Their anger is misguided. While I don’t believe we should be vilifying Paterno,
rioting in support of Paterno is just foolish and ignorant. Paterno was fired as head football coach of
Penn State this week; an action that when considering all the information in
the Grand Jury Report had to be taken for the betterment of the University. College kids often do dumb things that they
later regret, so I hope that these students that have been rioting can step
back and take a look at the bigger picture and realize that their actions are
not justified. There are far too many
different areas that could be discussed regarding this Penn State scandal, but
I want to focus on how we can process this story and take it as an opportunity
to educate ourselves and others about the issue of child molestation, and how
everyone can better react and respond when they have knowledge of such a
situation.
What Happened?
In case you are unfamiliar with the Penn State Scandal, you
can find the Grand Jury Report on the Sandusky case
HERE. One word of warning, the report is at times graphic
and extremely disturbing. There are 8
victims listed in the report, but there is reason to believe there may have
been many more victims. Most of the talk
has been surrounding the story of victim #2, because witnessing the abuse was a
Penn State Football grad assistant named McQueary. McQueary was disturbed at the sight and
called his dad. His dad advised him to
leave immediately and come home. The
next morning McQueary notified head football coach Joe Paterno. Paterno passed the information on to his
superior, the Athletic Director at Penn State.
Apparently the AD sat on the information and failed to report to
the police this criminal activity. Paterno
failed to follow up on the situation. There
was known child sex abuse that failed to get reported to the police; therein lays
the great controversy.
Where is the
Compassion?
I think far too many people hearing and reading about this
story are looking for as many people as possible to vilify. There is no doubt that many people used very
poor judgment at Penn State and those people should and are now being held
accountable for their actions or inactions, but I am more interested in finding
solutions to addressing the very serious problem of child molestation than I am
in finding people to vilify. I think
that many look at this story with hatred in their heart. I admit that the story is very frustrating
and sad, and that it is natural for us to feel angry. In fact, I believe we all should feel some
sense of righteous anger, because there are so many innocent kids who are
victims to a terrible crime, and there were adults with knowledge of the
situation that could have done something to stop the abuse. However, we must not harbor hatred in our
heart for the people involved regardless of their actions or inactions. I understand that this can sometimes be
difficult, but harboring anger only makes the problem worse for everyone
including ourselves. We should have compassion
first and foremost for the victims. No
child should have to be subjected to what these poor kids were subjected to,
and we must not forget the victims in the story. We should have compassion for the victims’
families. We should have compassion for
the players on the football team, who through no fault of their own have had to
endure a torturous week of media scrutiny and have lost their football
coach. I also believe that we should
have compassion for those at Penn State who displayed terrible moral judgment. Their failure to report the incident to police
seems unfathomable, but they still are human beings. We also must pray for Mr. Sandusky who has very
serious and sick problems. No question
that what he did was terrible. Terrible! It is one of the worst acts that any person
can do, and it was not a single act but a series of acts. No sane person can understand why he would do
what he did. However, he also is a human
being and I do not believe it is productive for us to wish this man damned to
Hell even if it appears to many that his actions warrant that justice. In the end, God is the final judge. We should pray for this man. This in no way does or should diminish the
compassion we have for the victims and their families. We must also pray that the victims receive
the support that they need from family, friends and the entire community. With all this being said, I do think that
there is some irony in the public’s reaction to this story.
The Irony of the
Public’s Reaction
I do not want to minimize the very real tragedy of this scandal
or the severity of the allegations, and I want to emphasize that the victims in
this case have my full support and deepest sympathies, but I contend that we
accept child abuse every day in this country because we accept abortion, the
killing of innocent children in the womb, as a legal “choice” for pregnant women. Somehow the killing of a child is not nearly
as disturbing to the majority of the public as the abuse of children who have
been born. I guess it is much easier to
accept and understand an injustice when we can see a face and acknowledge the
humanity of the victim. Personally, I
find both extremely disturbing. Doctors
who perform the abortions are seen by many as “compassionate” to the women who
find themselves in difficult situations.
We can discuss the similarities between abortion and child abuse another
day, but I did want to mention the irony in how we think of these two issues
completely differently in our society.
Lessons Learned
At the end of the day, there is no turning back the
clock. What has been done has been
done. However, the future is ahead of us,
and we can learn from this tragically sad story. We can let this story ignite hatred in our
hearts, or we can look at this story with a compassionate heart. We can see the terrible mismanagement of this
situation as a chance to condemn people, or we can use it as an opportunity to
educate ourselves on the appropriate response to sexual abuse of children and
reflect on how we would react if we were in a similar situation. It is easy to say now from the outside and
after the fact that we would do the right thing to immediately stop the abuse,
but are we absolutely certain that we would? Sometimes the right thing to do is not always
clear to us especially in the moment. That
is why it is so important that we property form our conscience. Hopefully, with a properly formed conscience
we will know what the right thing to do is when we encounter such
situations. We can become better people
and a better society because of this story.
The only way we can accomplish this is if we look at this story with a
compassionate heart and with a determined resolve to take the news of this
story to motivate positive change in a messed up world. My thoughts and prayers go out to all victims
of child molestation, especially the victims in this case. May God grant them peace.
God bless,
Mike
